Reader Question: Why Can’t I Confront My Narcissistic Mother?

August 16, 2020

A reader wrote in asking “why can’t I confront my narcissistic mother?” Here’s her full question and situation: At 49 years old, why am I afraid to confront my narcissistic mother? Over the last year, she took out a HOME equity line of credit on her and my father’s house and gambled it all away. […]

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How Exploring Defensiveness Can Contribute to Justice and Inner Peace

July 10, 2020

  When we get defensive, we defend against something that we feel someone is trying to impose on us. Sometimes the other person is trying to impose something, but often they aren’t. Defensiveness gets in the way of conversations and of learning. When we get defensive, we don’t hear the other person. We worry about […]

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Is social distancing great or awful for your peace of mind?

May 12, 2020

  As a coach for Highly Sensitive People, I’ve been hearing two different reactions to social distancing: 1. It’s GREAT! Highly Sensitive People either tell me that because of social distancing, they have more space, they get to work from home, there’s less pressure, there’s more time to meditate. They’re loving the new quiet they’re […]

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17 Secret Empath Types You HAVE to Know About

April 29, 2020

You want to know who you are. Of course you do! Of course we all do! And one of the ways the internet caters to that is by giving us lists of different types. What type of muppet we are. What kind of vegetable we’d be. What type of friend we are. And more recently, lists […]

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How to Find Your HSP Balance and Have Quiet, Without Becoming a Hermit

April 2, 2020

As a Highly Sensitive Person, it’s really important to have a deep understanding of how to find your HSP balance. Your HSP balance is the right amount of sensory stimulation, with the right amount of quiet time. That perfect “mix” is what will give you a deep sense of well-being. It’s pretty crucial! Unfortunately, many […]

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3 Steps You Need to Take to Let Go

March 24, 2020

I received this question – on steps to take to let go –  from a reader the other day: I don’t know what to tell myself to help me with letting go. My teacher and I became friends and got creative over fun projects and she fed my sad, criticism-destroyed ego with encouragement and support […]

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21 Helpful Tips and Resources to Stay Sane During the Corona Pandemic

March 20, 2020

With mass fear about Corona spreading and governments taking swift and life-upending action to slow the spread of the virus, most of us are scrambling to adjust. Here are 21 tips and resources I’ve gathered that I believe are helpful for Highly Sensitive People (and friends!) to stay sane during the corona pandemic. (No time […]

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Stressed Out? Quick Fixes Can Block Real Relief

March 11, 2020

Being stressed out is not a new problem. Neither is the search for quick fixes! Back in the day – maybe they’re still doing this, who knows – there was a wave of “mindfulness at work” mania. I call it mania because there seemed to be something fundamentally exploitative about it, as in: “dear employees, […]

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How to Figure Out if You are an Empath

March 1, 2020

You’ve probably heard of empaths, otherwise you wouldn’t be here! You’ve heard that being an empath can be great source of overwhelm. Empaths tend to be compassionate people and great listeners. They tend to be amateur healers (whether they want to or not). And you probably have questions about all that. So, how do you […]

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Does Sensitivity Have to be a “Superpower” or a “Gift” to be Valuable?

February 15, 2020

I see this mentioned more and more, in the urge to make high sensitivity valuable, it seems it’s not just enough to say “I value my sensitivity”. No, it needs to be a superpower! A gift! Something very very special! Why? I mean, I understand it makes for good marketing. Especially when it conjures up […]

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Are You Being Picky, or Just Being Highly Sensitive?

February 2, 2020

Is there a difference between being picky or Highly Sensitive? Or do they boil down to the same thing? Does being Highly Sensitive mean being picky? It can, right? When you’re more sensitive, certain things have a bigger impact on you, so you can end up being a lot more picky about these things than […]

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Is Love About Breaking Down Someone’s Walls?

January 21, 2020

  A client had this insight the other day: “I always deep-down assumed that if I kind of locked people out, and then someone would try very hard to break down my defenses, that that meant that they loved me”. It was a profound moment (the quote is my paraphrasing of what she said).   […]

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3 Keys to Thriving as an Empath

January 12, 2020

As an empath you need boundaries, boundaries and more boundaries to thrive. Yet boundaries are probably the thing you are least inclined to develop because you just want to connect, you love being in the flow, you don’t want to upset anyone and you don’t want to exclude anyone who feels lonely, sad or abandoned. […]

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What are the Differences between Highly Sensitive People and Empaths?

December 28, 2019

The easiest way to think about the differences is to think of “empaths” as a smaller subset of “Highly Sensitive People”. This is not 100% accurate, but good enough as a rule of thumb. So, both empaths and HSPs have a more sensitive nervous system. Both pick up on more subtle cues from people. The […]

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If the Nine-Nine was a Life Coaching Center

December 21, 2019

  This is what happens when you’re me and you watch your fourth-or-so Netflix rerun of the sitcom (nay, Life Advice Show) Brooklyn Nine-Nine. You see the light and identify:   30+ reasons to schedule a coaching session at the Nine-Nine. Because sometimes the best Heist, is getting on a coaching call.     Wait, […]

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Are You Feeling Completely Stuck?

December 7, 2019

  Sometimes you can be doing all the right things. And yet, no matter how much you try, no matter how much expert advice you follow, it’s like you keep getting thrown into the same stuck place. Every single time. You get stuck. Feel frozen in the same creepy Groundhog Day scenario. Jammed into the same […]

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Why Popular Empath Tools Make Your Overwhelm, Exhaustion and Confusion Worse

November 25, 2019

Google and you will find. Or at least, you’ll find something. I think it’s great that people want to help each other and share tools and processes. What is not so great is when those tools and processes are ineffective, badly explained, or not suited to the problem at hand.   “But why is this […]

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Extroverted? Here are 9 Tips on how to be Quiet and Reflective (and more intuitive!)

November 1, 2019

This article started as a “sure, why not?” response to the tweet below… Just once I’d like to see an article like “Extroverted? Here’s Some Tips on How to Be Quiet and Reflective” https://t.co/jOhLJKZuT3 — Tom & Lorenzo (@tomandlorenzo) August 29, 2019   I fired off one tweet to start: I have a tip. I […]

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Are Negative Emotions Bad for Your Health?

October 22, 2019

A little while back, I received this comment over email: “I keep being told that  negative emotions put stress on the body and the cells.  That I need to think positive or I won’t heal!  Then I get scared and add another emotion.” Sigh, I wish people would stop saying that. Especially people who consider […]

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12 Habits to Avoid Misery and Feel Better

October 17, 2019

If you’re feeling overwhelmed with the world, you’re not alone. Sadly, (too) many HSP forums and articles focus on how terrible the state of the world is, as a kind of “reason why” there is no way out of feeling bad. Even worse, a lot of people seem to suggest (reading between the lines) that […]

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