New possibilities…where are they?

What are some of the ways to really create new possibilities in our lives? What are the things that really work? What do we need to do to create positive change?

Why Awareness Won’t Solve Your Overwhelm Problems

January 17, 2019

I hear a lot of people talk about awareness. Awareness is a good thing. But what exactly does it mean to “be aware”? Being aware can be as basic as “I know this thing is happening, I am aware!”. It can even go as far as “I know when this thing is happening! I am […]

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How to Figure out What you Want as an HSP

December 13, 2018

One of the blocks to knowing what you want is often a voice that sounds like: “but other people need me to be X” “there is no time for me to figure out what I want, I have too many responsibilities!”, or even: “my head is filled with what other people want, what I think […]

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When Trying to Make Things Work is Making You Feel Hopeless

October 11, 2018

For the creative world-makers it’s hard to hear that this is the way it is and always will be! In fact, chances are, you reject a rigid statement like that. Nothing, absolutely nothing needs to stay the way it is, and it shouldn’t! I applaud your creativity. I understand it. I have it. And I’ve […]

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Has Impossible become your HSP Normal?

July 14, 2017

Is “normalising” as in “making the crazy feel normal” a verb? Google leaves me unsure, since normalising seems to be used mostly to describe bringing things back to a common standard. So, I might be flipping a word pancake upside down here. Either way, the word makes just as much sense – if not more […]

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How to Put Gratitude on Auto-Pilot

September 22, 2014

The feel-good community is full of writings on gratitude: How gratitude changes people’s lives. How keeping a gratitude journal makes all the difference. How counting your blessings helps you sleep. Now, for those of us who ignore the good stuff present, and obsess about what is missing, that is certainly an excellent strategy. Yet, for […]

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How is HSP Coaching Different from Therapy?

August 4, 2014

I got this question recently: Good question! I used to think that coaching was exclusively for business executives who wanted to be more productive (or who had a boss who wanted them to be more productive). I certainly had no idea about “what else” coaching might be or do. In fact, the only coach I […]

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An HSP Note on Impossible Dreams versus Realistic Desires: how (not) to have it all

May 6, 2013

This is for all the HSP big dreamers out there. There are times when a fact-check will kill your dreaming and should be avoided. Other times, a fact-check will save you the heartache of trying to contradict life itself and then be angry because you think you’re “failing”.   There is a tile in my […]

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How to Create Inspiring New Year’s Resolutions

December 31, 2012

For those of us allergic to rules and restrictions (me! me!), New Year’s Resolutions are one of those “whatever” phenomena. Too often, they are about convincing ourselves that we will finally do what we think we must do, and know we are not really interested in. It actually pays to look deeper. When your New […]

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Carnaval Challenge: Two questions to reverse your life (if only for a day) + pdf + video

February 19, 2012

Carnaval is in town. Noise, booze and lots of people doing the-same-kind-of-crazy. Essentially and historically though, carnaval (at least here in Limburg, the southern province of the Netherlands) is about creative role reversal. The mayor hands over the ‘keys of the city’ to the people. The people choose their own ruler(s) amongst themselves and they….do […]

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Inviting the New

January 25, 2012

Do you wish that in some ways your life would be different? It’s almost a cliche, to say it. After all, we’ve heard it said so many times in so many ways! “To create positive change we need to choose the unfamiliar.” “We need to choose the new to have the new.” Yep, sure, but […]

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