Understanding Emotions

Are your emotions giving you a hard time? Have you been told that you are too emotional? What if most people actually repress their emotions because they have no idea how to deal with them. Would that throw a different light on your confrontation with what you feel?

Thoughts Don’t Cause Emotions: Honouring our HSP Intuitive Wisdom

December 17, 2012

I urge you to question the assumption that thoughts cause emotions (and that that’s all there is to it). That if you change your thinking that you’ll feel different. I know it’s the status quo wisdom out there. I also know it’s B.S. as a “final truth” philosophy. Here’s the scoop. Our thoughts may be […]

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Anger (Abstinence?), Boundary Setting and the Spiritual Dilemma of the Good Person

October 11, 2011

I’ve had a real struggle with anger. For the longest time, I couldn’t really be angry. I didn’t know what it felt like to be truly angry. Some people told me this was because I was a vegetarian (at the time). That “eating meat makes you angry”…or something like that. Some people said it was […]

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The Opposite of HSP Happiness is Guilt

November 19, 2013

When you think about the opposite of happiness, do you think of depression? Sadness? Anger perhaps? Or have you realised – through experience – that the opposite of happiness is guilt, because guilt is the biggest thing blocking you from doing what makes you happy? I’m not the definitive expert on what emotional state is […]

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How Exploring Defensiveness Can Contribute to Justice and Inner Peace

July 10, 2020

  When we get defensive, we defend against something that we feel someone is trying to impose on us. Sometimes the other person is trying to impose something, but often they aren’t. Defensiveness gets in the way of conversations and of learning. When we get defensive, we don’t hear the other person. We worry about […]

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How do you explain your feelings to someone who isn’t empathic?

September 26, 2020

I received a question the other day. It’s a question on how to explain your feelings to others who don’t get it. How to explain your feelings to people who are not emotional, and who are (though she doesn’t use that word) narcissistic: “How can I explain my feelings to others who are on the […]

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The Difference Between Fear and Anxiety + why this matters for HSPs

January 13, 2024

If you thought fear is just the big sister of anxiety, you’re not alone. On the face of it, anxiety and fear are very similar. Except, for their root causes. Fear tells you that something dangerous is on the horizon. Anxiety may seem to tell you the same thing, but actually it’s very different. While […]

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Why Doesn’t That Difficult Emotion Go Away? 25 Reasons + Solutions

February 25, 2024

At heart, emotions are not meant to make you suffer. They are not meant to be with you for years and years on end just to “make you feel bad”. However, emotions are persistent. They have a loving agenda for you. They are there for a reason and so, if you don’t unwrap the gift […]

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