You’re empathic, but are you also an empath?

It’s one thing to have an HSP nervous system: a body that is more sensitive to all kinds of stimuli. It’s something to also be an empath (or clairsentient). Typical HSP strategies will help you somewhat, but for you, there’s more going on.

Being Empathic versus Being an Empath: Crucial Differences

August 19, 2013

This article is about the seemingly negligible distinctions between being empathic and being an empath. Seemingly negligible because the practical distinctions are huge! As an HSP, you’ll likely identify with being empathic. For various reasons, it can even be a preferable word to Highly Sensitive. Being empathic means that you are able to relate to […]

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7 Phases of Becoming a Skilled Empath

July 22, 2014

Discussing anything in terms of phases is always a bit of a hit-and-miss. Phases can overlap, and there is no right or wrong order to things. Nevertheless, I’ve found that there often is a certain order to how clients go from being an overwhelmed empath to becoming a skilled empath. The phases outlined below are […]

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Empath Fatigue – is your compassion wearing you thin?

April 5, 2014

So, you know you’re an empath. You’re someone who feels other people’s feelings. You’re having these crazy emotional fluctuations all day when you’re around other people… only to heave a sigh of relief when you’re alone and things magically settle down. Being an empath isn’t easy. For one, it takes a lot of time to […]

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Empath Heartbreak

June 21, 2013

Empaths are the sensitives among the sensitives. Feeling other’s emotions so intensely that they assume these feelings are their own, empaths tend to struggle more with overwhelm than other HSP’s. Empath heartbreak plays a big role in this. To heal, the brokenness needs to be faced.  I can’t speak for all empaths, but I have […]

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HSP / Empath Mythology & Suffering – do your inner stories support you?

May 11, 2013

The stories we tell ourselves about the big WHY of being a sensitive person in a not so sensitive world…those stories really matter, they can make or break us. More on that in the video. If you’d like to get more help with this topic, be sure to check out the empath course. In it, […]

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Empath S.O.S. – what to do when the emotions of others are weighing you down in the workplace

March 30, 2013

When you’re empathic to the point of sponging other people’s emotional energy (and you take it all home with you) life can get pretty overwhelming… especially when you’re working in an emotionally intense environment. I’ve been getting a lot of questions and “cries for help” on this topic recently. What to do? More on that […]

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The Alternative Empath goes Clairsentient

July 31, 2011

I’ve read a lot of empath-advice on shielding and closing yourself off from the world. But that way, you further entrench the deeper trauma that “the world is not a safe place” instead of “a loving place”. That way you are encouraged to lock yourself into your own pain. How we come to be empaths […]

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Emotional Soup

July 31, 2011

We’ve got a lot of strange ideas about emotions in the Western world. First of all, we are taught to claim everything we feel as “ours”. When we go shopping, we carry a bag and pick up a can of soup (or something else) and push a shopping cart with groceries in front of us. […]

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Why There Are No Life-Changing Empath Books Out There

September 29, 2014

Every now and again, I get the question: “are there any empath books you’d recommend?” And the short answer is no. Here’s why (the long answer): A few years ago, when I was on a very serious search for empath solutions, I read more than my share of empath books. Yet none of them proved […]

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Empaths in Dating and Relationships [podcast]

March 31, 2015

  Some of the most common empath concerns that I often hear are: The fear of being completely engulfed by the energy of the other person Struggling to set self-care boundaries Losing your own sense of identity How to stop picking partners who mostly need a therapist, not a lover (!) In the hour podcast […]

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Five Common Misunderstandings About Empaths

October 24, 2018

1. I am intuitive, I know things about people… therefore I am an empath. Nope. There are different ways to “know” things. There are different forms of intuition and psychic abilities, being an empath is just one of those options. Empaths feel energy. Other psychic gifts can be connected to different senses: knowing things, somehow. […]

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Core Differences Between Empaths and Other People Who are Sensitive to Energy

May 15, 2019

If you’ve been reading my articles for a while, you know that I care a lot about the many subtle and technical distinctions between many kinds of sensitivity. Why? Because depending on the underlying mechanisms of your sensitivity the solution you need will be radically different. You could compare it so something everyday like feeling […]

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