Caroline van Kimmenade

Why Do Narcissists Hate Grief So Much?

April 25, 2022

Narcissists really hate tears, have you noticed? If you’re the one crying, they’ll be the first one to ridicule you or make you shut up one way or another. To overt narcissists, tears spell weakness. That’s something they’ll likely admit to, because they like to boast about being strong. To covert narcissists, crocodile tears (not […]

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9 Ways to Nourish Your Heart (and reverse compassion fatigue)

April 1, 2022

The world needs open hearts. The world needs compassion, caring, empathy, and being present. Your heart is important in so many ways. But how do you nourish and support your heart when the world looks bleak, hatred seems to run rampant and trying to care about one more thing feels impossible? Below are 9 ways. […]

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Why Narcissists have the Power to Make You Feel Crazy

March 27, 2022

If you’ve ever tried to reason with a narcissist, you will no doubt have felt exasperated, confused… and wondered if you were crazy. I mean, you’re a pretty smart person, but somehow you just can’t follow their logic!  Why is it that every time you feel like you get a little closer to understanding what’s going on, and […]

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Are you Highly Sensitive, Very Empathic and Unusually Intuitive?

November 26, 2021

You may have been told that you are too sensitive, too emotional and too weird overal. How do you know what you know? How come you seem to understand other people so well? Why do you get stressed out by things other people seem to be fine with? You care and tend to take other […]

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3 Magical Things I Learned from Losing my Memory

November 24, 2021

I don’t talk about this often, but for a while, my short-term memory was completely shot. This was back sometime around 2010. Quick context: In 2009 I burned out to the point where I couldn’t work, and I could barely get through my day. The short of it is: it was not fun. I don’t […]

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12 Misleading Ways Narcissistic People Sound Loving – when they’re really selfish

November 4, 2021

Some narcissistic people are really good at sounding loving, when they really aren’t. They care about “looking good” so when kindness gets them bonus points, they’ll be sure to phrase their motivation that way. These narcissistic people will often use “loving” language to refer to things that have nothing to do with love. It’s not […]

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Dark Night of the Soul Healing versus Happy Healing

October 3, 2021

Most of us start learning about healing when life gets really painful, right? When you’re in your dark night of the soul. You’re looking around for a light at the end of the tunnel, and at some point you’re willing to pretty much try anything. Including things you would have thought were ridiculous not that […]

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I tried 25+ Vegan Protein Powders with my Sensitive Gut to find the Best One

May 25, 2021

When you are Highly Sensitive, it can feel like lots of things in this world weren’t designed with you in mind. As HSPs we are often the “canary in the mine” – our bodies can be the first that get upset from things that other people feel are “just fine”. This sensitivity means that finding […]

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What You Didn’t Know About Narcissism

May 20, 2021

When you think about “narcissists” you probably think about entitled, selfish people who only do what’s best for themselves while trampling on others, right? And those people exist, for sure, but they are not what you need to be on the lookout for when you’re trying to be smart about handling narcissism. You see, narcissism […]

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Boundaries for Highly Sensitive People: the yes, the no, the confusion

January 12, 2021

I get a lot of questions about boundaries for Highly Sensitive People. BUT – many sensitive souls don’t know that their real questions are about boundaries! They will google overwhelm and exhaustion and physical pain and all kinds of problems and ailments that are the result of not having supportive boundaries. So, the fact that […]

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How to Recognize Psychic Narcissists Masquerading as Empath Healers (11 Indicators)

September 30, 2020

Psychic Narcissists? Masquerading? Empath Healers? These are all big topics. And why should you even care? Well – because the healing techniques and approaches that psychic narcissists teach, will teach you to become like them. Whoops! Yes, for the most part, we become what we do. There are many aspects to our self that we […]

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How do you explain your feelings to someone who isn’t empathic?

September 26, 2020

I received a question the other day. It’s a question on how to explain your feelings to others who don’t get it. How to explain your feelings to people who are not emotional, and who are (though she doesn’t use that word) narcissistic: “How can I explain my feelings to others who are on the […]

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Reader Question: Why Can’t I Confront My Narcissistic Mother?

August 16, 2020

A reader wrote in asking “why can’t I confront my narcissistic mother?” Here’s her full question and situation: At 49 years old, why am I afraid to confront my narcissistic mother? Over the last year, she took out a HOME equity line of credit on her and my father’s house and gambled it all away. […]

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How Exploring Defensiveness Can Contribute to Justice and Inner Peace

July 10, 2020

  When we get defensive, we defend against something that we feel someone is trying to impose on us. Sometimes the other person is trying to impose something, but often they aren’t. Defensiveness gets in the way of conversations and of learning. When we get defensive, we don’t hear the other person. We worry about […]

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Is social distancing great or awful for your peace of mind?

May 12, 2020

  As a coach for Highly Sensitive People, I’ve been hearing two different reactions to social distancing: 1. It’s GREAT! Highly Sensitive People either tell me that because of social distancing, they have more space, they get to work from home, there’s less pressure, there’s more time to meditate. They’re loving the new quiet they’re […]

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17 Secret Empath Types You HAVE to Know About

April 29, 2020

You want to know who you are. Of course you do! Of course we all do! And one of the ways the internet caters to that is by giving us lists of different types. What type of muppet we are. What kind of vegetable we’d be. What type of friend we are. And more recently, lists […]

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How to Find Your HSP Balance and Have Quiet, Without Becoming a Hermit

April 2, 2020

As a Highly Sensitive Person, it’s really important to have a deep understanding of how to find your HSP balance. Your HSP balance is the right amount of sensory stimulation, with the right amount of quiet time. That perfect “mix” is what will give you a deep sense of well-being. It’s pretty crucial! Unfortunately, many […]

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3 Steps You Need to Take to Let Go

March 24, 2020

I received this question – on steps to take to let go –  from a reader the other day: I don’t know what to tell myself to help me with letting go. My teacher and I became friends and got creative over fun projects and she fed my sad, criticism-destroyed ego with encouragement and support […]

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21 Helpful Tips and Resources to Stay Sane During the Corona Pandemic

March 20, 2020

With mass fear about Corona spreading and governments taking swift and life-upending action to slow the spread of the virus, most of us are scrambling to adjust. Here are 21 tips and resources I’ve gathered that I believe are helpful for Highly Sensitive People (and friends!) to stay sane during the corona pandemic. (No time […]

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Stressed Out? Quick Fixes Can Block Real Relief

March 11, 2020

Being stressed out is not a new problem. Neither is the search for quick fixes! Back in the day – maybe they’re still doing this, who knows – there was a wave of “mindfulness at work” mania. I call it mania because there seemed to be something fundamentally exploitative about it, as in: “dear employees, […]

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