Are you a (highly) sensitive person, an empath, a “feeler”, an intuitive sensitive type?

by Caroline van Kimmenade

Have you always known there was something “different” about you?

Does the world seem to bombard your senses?

Have you intuitively known things that others didn’t?

Is it all pretty awesome EXCEPT: you’re so worn out, overwhelmed, emotional, stressed and maybe even medicated that you wonder how you fit in? (and how you fit into your life?)

Well, this site is for you. You the intuitively gifted, emotionally perceptive, astutely sensitive and sensorily overstretched.

I am like you, and it took me quite a while to figure out what that was exactly. You see, it all gets a lot better when you figure out what that sensitivity is exactly, how it works, and how you can best work with it, in your own unique way. There is nothing wrong with how you were built. It’s just that, you were likely told you were a mountainbike, when in fact, you are a less sturdy but very agile and fast racing bike.

You’ve been driving yourself down muddy tracks and wondering why things felt so wrong. So here’s why:

  • your way of relating to the world is different
  • your way of traveling through the world is different
  • and your way of knowing the world is different.
  • You are definitely a bicycle, just a different type.

So, to get the most out of your qualities you need to:

  • reorient yourself (what is being sensitive all about?)
  • you need some training (racing bike pedaling techniques)
  • and you might need some guidance and help (turn left, brake, you can do it!).

Welcome to the Happy Sensitive.

The place where you are NOT told that you will just have to deal with being a badly designed mountain bike (and that, what’s up with you for apparently lacking humongous shock absorbers anyway?!).

The place where you will NOT be told that if you can’t navigate down that muddy track, you just have to try harder.

The place where you will NOT be told that being “Highly” is a euphemism for “overly” “exaggerated” and “weirdo” Sensitive. Rather, here:


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1 valerie sparks May 3, 2013

Thanks so much for doing this Blog! I am an Empathic and have struggled for 49 years navigating the trails. It is nice to know someone understands.

I look forward to following you!

2 Mary ELLEN June 17, 2013

I am so grateful i found you .i almost gave up. thank you. Mary.

3 Carol August 27, 2013

Thank you

4 Rosemary October 17, 2013

Thanks. I always knew I was different somehow!

5 sean December 23, 2013

Thank you, somehow I am here and I feel good about it. Life has been an adventure as I’m still learning what all I can do.Being an empathy is one of my traits/abilities, I look forward to the future here

6 TERRI February 3, 2014

at this very moment i feel like there is a shred of hope left for me…..i always knew i had some kind of connection that was different….mostly thinking i was crazy….i have been on a lonely downward spiral ….. on a dark path of emotional chaos, falling further down physically, emotionally, spiritually as wars of raw pain and emotional debates crowd my mind and have beaten me down to where i am now…..a drained bankrupt soul. but all of a sudden i found some word that called out to me….Empath, a Sensitive and an Intuitive….. i googled them and found a site and read and read and read..then i searched again and found this site and something struck me deep in side……this is where i am suppose to be right now….i am suppose to be here and find the light that will heal me!! any help would be appreciated…..i don’t have a clue how to heal myself …..someone one save me from myself….please

7 Caroline van Kimmenade February 4, 2014

Hi Terri,

Welcome! Paradoxically, step 1 to being saved…is to stop looking for or expecting someone else to save you. We victimize ourself unnecessarily when we believe that we don’t have what it takes, that we don’t know what to do. Your words, asking for someone to “save me from myself” point to exactly that: start looking at the ways in which you’ve turned against yourself and instead start supporting yourself again in those areas. We all have free will, which includes the freedom to either attack ourself, or support ourself.

The first step is to become aware of how we attack ourself.
The second step is deciding on a more loving reaction
The third step is to practice that reaction until it becomes a new habit and happens automatically.

There’s lots of info on this site, including the 5 min meditation in the left margin of the site, which I highly recommend. I’ve received amazing stories from people about the inner guidance they received and how it was exactly what they needed to hear.

8 TERRI February 11, 2014

My apologies for not getting back to your excellent advice …you are absolutely right. I do look for others to save me at this point….and I have been on the defensive with myself all along and not even realized it. No wonder when I look into the mirror, I do not know the reflection that glares back at me. I will check out the meditation. I will try …..yes I will try today to recapture some peace in my chaotic mind…yes! I will do just that!! Thank you so very much!! and God Bless!!

9 Caroline van Kimmenade February 12, 2014

You’re welcome Terri. As to your glaring reflection that you mentioned, there’s some important anger to get in touch with for sure! More on that here

10 Lee H. March 29, 2014

Caroline, I feel very blessed to have found your site. After being raised by a narcissist for 48 years and married to a narcissist for 23 years I am beginning to connect with who I really am, with my true self as opposed to my false self. I am separating from my husband in marriage permanently and putting limits on my narcissistic father. It feels scary and also empowering. From what I have read from your site briefly this morning I know it will be a huge support to me. Thank you.

11 Caroline van Kimmenade March 29, 2014

Congratulations Lee!

12 Denise September 25, 2014

Hello. I just discovered this website today and am so happy. I have one dear friend who is also an HSP and have long desired others to be in community with. The idea that I could be a “Happy” Sensitive gives me great hope. I often feel alone. I am looking forward to participating in the perfect way for me. I send you all Happy Wishes for a full, satisfying and joyful day!

13 Caroline van Kimmenade September 29, 2014

That’s great Denise! Welcome. Sounds like you would also enjoy the Happy Sensitive Online Community. Many people who find this site don’t have many if any people around them who are also HSP. Being able to chat with others about things that are normal to us HSPs, but strange to most people, is such such a relief and joy :) You’d be welcome to join.

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