Left-Handed Perspectives on Being HSP: 8 tips for you and your sensitive body

If you are left-handed, you will have experienced first hand how many things in this world are not “made for you”. If you are HSP, you will also experience how many things in this world are not “made for you.” The similarity? Both are a matter of how you are “physically designed”.

When I was in elementary school, being left handed was “accepted” but you sure were encouraged to feel that it was a stupid way to be! Writing in ink meant smudging-as-you-go-along. The only solution seemed to be a cramped and uncomfortable hand position that kept my hand above the drying ink. Now I think, why didn’t anyone give me a ballpoint? Then, when I did get a ballpoint, my cramped style had become the only way I could write. So, I was told that I wasn’t writing correctly and needed to put an embarrasing ‘aid’ on my pens, to help me grasp the pen correctly… The ‘aid’ was meant for much younger kids and little things mattering as they do in elementary school, it meant I was a part-time dork, just for that.

It wasn’t until much much later that a sympathetic colleague commented that “hey, must be complex for you doing simple things, since the world is built for right-handed people”….Up until that moment, I never realized that a lot of my felt clumsiness actually came from having to use right-hand doors, scissors and all kinds of other things with my left hand. It’s so subtle, yet so influential. And heck, I just didn’t know any better!

Discovering I’m HSP was kind of like that. You find out that all the labels you’ve received (oversensitive, shy, awkward, crazy) have Nothing to do with YOU. It’s just the nervous system you have. Much like being left-handed and having to use right-handed doorhandles, you have to learn to function in a world designed for people that fare well on much more stimulation. There’s nothing wrong with you, all it is is an unacknowledged and misunderstood characteristic of your body and hence of your being. Pfewww. And, of course, that’s when the real work starts….

Now, when I get “abnormally” stressed out, I think of it not as “me” being “odd” but as “me and my sensitive body”. And, since there’s two of us ( :) ), one can take care of the other.

There are some things I can do but my body can’t. I can:

1 Anticipate over stimulation
2 Plan needed rest and time-out
3 Come up with a suitable exit-line in taxing social situations
4 Find out as much as possible about being HSP so that, of all people, at least
I ‘get’ and respect my body
5 Choose people who respect HSPs to hang out with

There are some things I can’t do but my body can. My body can:

1 Alert me about bad-for-me situations (my solar plexus gives me instant nausea)
2 Pick up all kinds of subtle info that can give me vital clues about my
surroundings (like being part of a kind of energetic FBI, you’ve got access to all kinds of
amazing insider’s info!)
3 Eliminate toxins and stress through movement

So, unfortunately, most of the man-made world isn’t made for HSPs (it’s like being left-handed remember?) and I need to remind myself of that. Reminding myself helps me NOT to get upset and angry at others for “making life unbearable”. It’s just that, they need the extra stimulation that I dread.

Not so long ago I discovered that, in fact, many people get extremely bored in nature due to a lack of stimulation. How extraordinary! To many people, not much is going on in the outdoors, so why bother? While for an HSP, there’s lots of things going on. Imagine that!

So sometimes I like to think: “It’s so much easier being HSP. We like the earth in her purest, natural form. We don’t need all the man-made excitement and entertainment to keep our lives interesting. We are in fact, easy to please!”

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1 Kimmy August 30, 2011

You said, "(my solar plexus gives me instant nausea)"

The first time I noticed this nausea, I looked around me to see what had changed. What happened then, actually scared me. I had witnessed a 'sex offender" in my local neighborhood. I felt his evil, on a main street. When I looked into his car, I didn't see his face.

Later, I was called into the police station. I did a "photo" line up. Let me tell you, if you never had to do a photo line up. They are very good at getting 6 men, white hair 240 pounds, and 55ish in the photos. Now I had the license plate, so they had the owner of that car in the photos. At first glance, all 6 pictures were a blur. As I looked at each one, (and remember I never saw his "face") I didn't feel anything. When I looked at the last picture, I almost threw up. After that day, feeling others energy was more intense.

Besides work and immediate family, I found it hard to even go shopping.

I managed to build shields, and ultimately, like you said in other posts that others' energy is not mine.

But that first nauseous feeling I will never forget.

2 Caroline van Kimmenade August 30, 2011

Wow, that is an intense experience! (and a wonderful example of solar plexus wisdom – thank you for sharing!) I have a theory that, when we really start to acknowledge our intuition like you described, we'll go through an intense learning and tweaking phase, where other people's energy can get REALLY difficult to deal with. It all becomes "bigger" making it 'easier' (if you could call it that) to notice. I've gone through a time like that too, and I hear quite a number of people describing similar experiences. Glad to hear that you successfully made it through to the other side! Party time :)

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