Live Class

What About Forgiveness

A practical framework on who, how, when to forgive

You need forgiveness, but that doesn’t mean you should blindly turn the other cheek, and it also doesn’t mean you should dismiss how you’re truly feeling!

I once got into a discussion with a man on instragram about mending relationships. His stance was, if you’re in a fight, both just apologize and shake hands and move on! It really was that simple according to him.

While that may work if you both did something stupid, it doesn’t really work when there are many emotions and layers to what went wrong. Especially when “what went wrong” had lots of painful consequences for you!

In an attempt to make everyone get along, you may feel pressured to ‘get over’ something before you’re truly ready. In fact, too many forgiveness processes are about that: to make you get over something asap, instead of allowing you to be very real with yourself about what is possible.

So, I am teaching a new workshop about the latter: getting real and seeing what is truly possible!

Because what this world needs is not more dogma and pretending for the sake of being “nice”. What this world needs is honesty and true love.

What You’ll Learn:

The 3 Forgiveness Steps. This includes the steps you need to go through and the steps that the other person needs to go through to make it truly work so there is no lingering resentment.
The 5 Forgiveness Outcomes that help you orient yourself in advance on what is possible. There is more than one possible right outcome!
Why you may feel pressured to “get over it” before you’re truly ready and how to handle that.
The emotional process that is part of the forgiveness process. You can’t skip this!
Understanding the core of forgiveness. (Most forgiveness practices get this wrong, which is why there is no true closure.)
The super common Forgiveness Traps that pop culture wants you to believe (but that are not helpful at all)
How to map out your own realistic Forgiveness Plan.

If you’re someone that others tend to come to for advice, this framework is also really helpful to see where and how other people get stuck! It’s a checklist as it were and you’ll have a clear understanding of why each step is needed, and why nothing will shift for the better when someone keeps avoiding a particular step.

This will allow you to give people you care about a helpful suggestion if they’re not sure how to go about forgiveness. But also, it will allow you to step back when necessary because you’ll better see where forgiveness is possible and where it’s not.

Workshop Structure

This workshop is two hours. It has two parts and a short break in the middle.

In the first 50 minutes or so, I’ll walk you through the theory part and answer any questions. We’ll end part 1 with a feeling exercise to help you get clear.

Then you’ll have a 15 minute break so you can get a drink, go to the bathroom and ponder what you discovered.

After the break we put the theory into practice. This includes a Heart Wisdom meditation and group discussion to help you get clear on your own forgiveness process for a particular person.

The workshop includes a 6-page workbook with reminders of the main steps.

Class Practicalities

where: online, using Zoom. We’ll have cameras off so we won’t get distracted by people moving around, pets in the background etc and it doesn’t matter if your hair is presentable or not.

(If you do want to show off your meticulously put together hairdo, be sure to get on a few minutes early before the class starts, so you can turn on your cam and show us 😉 )

when: Saturday February 26th at noon Eastern, 9am Pacific, 6pm Central European Time (you’ll see the time and date in your own timezone when you click on the scheduler below)

cost: 50 euros. US$ 54

Yes, the workshop will be recorded and everyone joining will receive the recording. However a huge benefit of this workshop is the live component! You will be guided through a step by step process to help you gain clarity on a relationship you’re struggling with right now. This includes a Heart Wisdom Meditation that I developed just for this class. As always, there is space for your questions and group discussion so that you’ll walk away from this workshop really knowing what to do.

So be sure to block off this time on your calendar and let people know you’ll be busy! These are always small group classes so you don’t need to worry you’ll get lost in the shuffle.

How to Join:

Use the scheduler below to register for the class.

Click the orange “set time zone” button
Click on the bolded date and time (even though there is just one option, I know)
Click continue.
Fill out your name etc and pay through credit card or paypal.

Don’t see a scheduler below? Click this link instead: https://thehappysensitive.as.me/?appointmentType=31318382

Previous Classes:

Recordings of previous classes are available inside the Happy Sensitive Library

You’ve seen what hatred and rage can do in the world, so you probably vowed to stay far far away from it.

Or maybe you know you can’t avoid those feelings, they are regular emotions after all, but it freaks you out when you – or others – clearly feel that way.

Everything on the anger spectrum tends to get a bad rap. When you look around you, there probably aren’t that many people modeling a healthy way to deal with these feelings. So it seems safer to avoid them entirely…

But have you ever asked yourself WHY we have those feelings? What their true purpose is?

Because what if all forms of anger are NOT some kind of evil force to be avoided at all costs, but rather a very misunderstood and often misdirected form of energy?

In this class we look at all of that:

What is the messaging you’ve received about anger, hatred, rage and blame, and how has that affected how you deal with these feelings in your own life?
What is the true purpose of anger, hatred, rage and blame?
What are the important differences between these feelings? (Many people tend to throw them all on one heap, making them even more confusing to deal with)
How can you best deal with these feelings, to avoid misdirecting them?
What does healthy processing look like, and what does misdirecting these feelings look like?
How do you deal with anger, rage, hatred and blame from others? Without lashing out, running away or giving in.
Why are anger, hatred, rage and blame often so difficult to deal with for Highly Sensitive People? (and why, on the other hand, do narcissistic people tend to revel in those feelings?)
The difference between intuitive feelings and fabricated feelings and why this matters (a lot)

In this class you’ll learn a new framework for understanding and dealing with these feelings. Plus, there are short meditations to help put this theory into practice. Because it’s one thing to know it all in theory, and something else to actually practice it!

Why this class?

With the current worldwide polarization there is a lot of anger, rage, hatred and blame. Your skills in dealing with these feelings are being put to the test!

When you struggle to deal with these feelings you can end up feeling uncertain, overwhelmed, guilty and like you might keel over any minute.

However, when you know how to process these feelings the way they’re meant to be processed, they will help you gain clarity, get grounded, get things done and feel more secure.

The class recording is available inside the Happy Sensitive Library. It includes Q&A from participants to really get into the nitty gritty of all this.

Productivity Boost Workshop

for intuitive, creative, sensitive people who are tired of making themselves “just do it”

When you try to be productive in a linear way (just make the list and get it done!), even though you’re really the intuitive, feeling, creative type… getting things done feels hard.

Plus, it’s no fun!

You end up working against your own nature and fighting with yourself for the sake of ticking things off your to do list.

Maybe you’re disciplined and productive regardless, but you’re exhausted.

The productivity gurus want you to believe that you just have to suck it up and try harder. Get up earlier! Take less breaks! Be a productivity machine! Push down your feelings and go, go, go! Only reward yourself after a job well done.

How is that working out for you?

And what if I told you there’s a different way? A better way for you?

In this workshop you’ll learn how to:

Align your to-do’s and your feelings so you actually feel like getting things done (without forcing anything)
How to choose the path of least resistance that is most productive (this works better than trying to go on robot autopilot and trying to churn out results like machine!)
How to organise your time in a new way so that you are both flexible and efficient

Why am I teaching this?

I’ve been juggling lots of projects my whole life. There are always many things on my to-do list. Yet, time and time again I found that following common productivity advice got me nowhere. It just left me feeling frustrated and resentful.

Yet, when I started working with my intuiton, my creativity and my feelings, I’d get tons of things done! So much so that other people wondered how I was able to do it all.

I’ve been called prolific and “the hardest working HSP” because of how much I get done… but little do most people know that this is due to how I approach my to do list.

I’m not up at the crack of dawn at all and I’m not running around like a maniac all day! When I go about things the wrong way, I can procrastinate and spin my wheels as much as the next person though! In short, it’s not that I “am” magically different, it’s that I’ve learned how to “do” things differently.

What’s more, I’ve gone through a very serious burn out in the past when I had barely any energy. I know what it’s like when no matter how hard you try, you have zero “push” left to give! (Yet life goes on, and there are still things you need to do!)

So in this workshop I will be teaching you a radically different way to be productive. One that may sound strange at first, but that will feel so much more natural, obvious even, when you get how it works.

Kathy: “I feel a great sense of relief to reorganize my current [to do] list, feels much more possible”

Eva: “I was surprised to find out that there are things I can do when feeling anxious (that btw also will make me feel better I imagine)”

Arina: “thank you that was very insightful! so happy I joined”

Sunday: “Fabulous call”

How to stay Balanced, Clear and Calm – when life gets frantic

Modern life often happens at breakneck speed. In many ways, this is a blessing.

Gone are the hours you’d have to spend queueing up at the bank to make a simple deposit, or wait in line at the travel agency to book a simple flight.

Yet, on the flipside, there is so much happening all the time that it it can be hard to slow down, shut off and take a break. The moment one thing is done, the next thing is already on your plate!

Messages are sent pretty much instantly. We’re all reachable everywhere on our cell phones. As a result, in many parts of our day, we no longer get relaxation time built in automatically.

You no longer have to wait around for 10 minutes to fax a message page by page, you just hit send on an email in your inbox and it’s done. No more waiting for the internet dial-up connection to kick in either (unless you live in the middle of nowhere perhaps), you can move straight to the next to-do.

With so many things happening more efficiently and more quickly, our old natural “wait and ponder” times are quickly disappearing.

But, the old world is not coming back.

While some Highly Sensitive People flee to a more old-fashioned world with less tech, we are all dealing with a world that is quicker and more overwhelming than it was, whether we like it or not.

What to do?

Luckily, there are very down-to-earth practices that – when you remember to use them regularly – bring you balance, calm and clarity.

I figured it was time to teach you in an online, 90 minute class, so you can use these little life-savers asap!

What you’ll learn in this class:

This 90 minute class includes 4 down to earth practices for Highly Sensitive People to capably handle day-to-day stress when life gets frantic.

You’ll learn a simple practice you can use anywhere, anytime to help stay calm. This is a practical way to take charge of the pace of your life, regardless of what everyone else is doing.
We’ll look at the 3 big HSP balance sabotagers and you’ll discover which one personally affects you the most. Plus, what to do about it. Stress is tricky, learn to recognize when you try to make things better, but get tricked by your brain into making it worse.
You’ll learn how to turn things around when life just keeps putting more stuff on your plate and the end is never in sight. If you’re hoping peace is just around the corner, if only you get these few things finished… this technique is for you!
A step by step plan for getting to the root of what has your thoughts racing. No more figuring it out in your head (because that rarely works).

If you’ve taken other live classes with me – this class is complimentary to (and different from) other live classes I’ve taught.

Feeling powerless, hopeless, depressed – what’s the purpose?

feeling powerless, like there is nothing you can do, even though you think you should definitely do something?
feeling hopeless and it makes you scared, because who on earth would want to feel hopeless?
feeling depressed, because things just seem pointless, negative, a waste of time…?

If you’re wondering why you are getting punished with all these negative feelings…

Good news – you’re not being punished!

But if – upon hearing that – you feel like someone just handed you a gift-wrapped piece of dung and told you to be grateful for the experience (no thanks!), you’re not alone.

Depression, powerlessness and hopelessness are high up on the list of the worst negative feelings.

This is why many people try to avoid these feelings when they pop up! But, that’s a big mistake!

Do you want to be wrestling with these emotions the rest of your life? (because, spoiler alert: they don’t go away when you ignore them, they just dig in deeper!)

When you start to understand WHY these feelings show up, WHAT they are trying to teach you and HOW you can benefit from that, you’ll find that your life makes a lot more sense, and the universe is a lot more supportive than you thought!

I’m on a mission to help sensitive people be happier.

One of the common mistakes I see is when others will encourage you to ignore, suppress and push away the feelings you don’t like.

That’s a big mistake!

And it’s not a recipe for happiness, it’s a recipe for numbness.

This class was taught live on December 12th 2020 and is now available inside the Happy Sensitive Library

how long is the class?: an hour and 15 minutes

What students said they appreciated most about this class:

“I feel more grounded”

“the power of grieving “I wish it were another way””

“shifting into listening to the message of those feelings instead of pushing them down”

“I love the permission to say I’m angry or powerless, grieving or xyz.”

“These sessions always reinforce that my definition of what’s right/good is not someone else and that’s okay.”

“Very helpful exercise – got a clear answer and the picture of a childhood situation”

Mind Tidying

how to declutter an overwhelmed HSP headspace

👉 That person is driving you crazy
😕 You can’t figure out what is really going on here
💡💡💡 Too many ideas! 💡💡💡

😵 Feeling All The Things
➰ Caught in a mental loop
🤯 Can’t calm down

👩‍💼 Can’t focus on what you know you need to focus on…
😟 Worried, and worried some more.
🤔 Wondering what they are thinking
⁉️ It’s stupid, but there’s nothing you can do, although, maybe…is there? Maybe…hmmm, maybe not, or maybe…

Does this sound familiar?

It’s no fun being stressed. It’s no fun having a brain looming over you that is circling round and round going over All The Things. Especially when you know there’s no point, but how do you make it stop?

Good news! There are pretty straightforward and fun(!) steps you can take to take that mind from cluttered and exhausted to tidy and airy.

Sure, it’s not a cure for PTSD or ADD and it won’t solve your emotional problems (if you have them), just as, stacking your bills neatly won’t automatically pay them…

But it does help you keep overview, prioritise, and focus on what’s next.

Instead of on all the things floating around in your head.

I’m no stranger to stress – I’m Highly Sensitive too!, and my brain can get overloaded as much as the next Highly Sensitive Person’s.

But, that’s o.k. because I know how to keep my mind tidy.

And the cool thing is, I can teach you the process for keeping your mind tidy too, in just one class.

Class Feedback:

“That feels like a relief! It’s kind of like customized CBT”. ~ Jodi

“THAT is what I needed, thank you” ~ Althea

Participants described this class as: “amazing”, “grounding”, “hopeful”, “understanding myself”, “breaking loops”.

How I Stopped my Panic Attacks – for good

It’s been 10+ years since I had my last panic attack. At the time of teaching this class (April 2020) I figured, with global panic about the coronavirus rising – anyone vulnerable to panic attacks would be struggling. So I taught this live class to share the two steps I took to stop my panic attacks. I hope these steps work for you too!

“Really excellent and practical advice Caroline…logical and do-able” ~Catherine

“Thank you so much Caroline! You helped tie up a lot of loose ends for me and got some great insights!” ~Joann

“That’s really helpful, thank you…..covers all the levels including the very practical…and then the emotional.” ~Katherine

“Thank you for this. So helpful” ~Debra

“this makes sense” ~Susan

How to Avoid Overwhelm

– in personal life and work –

Overwhelm is the worst! And it’s quite common for Highly Sensitive People. We get stressed more quickly because we have a more sensitive nervous system, so we get overwhelmed more quickly too.

Do you get overwhelmed at times because everyone is clamouring for your attention?
Or you just have too many tasks on your plate?
Or you can’t find a quiet place to think?
Or you feel emotionally overloaded?
Or something else…

Thankfully, just because it’s easier for us to get overwhelmed, doesn’t mean we just have to put up with it and soldier on!

In this class you’ll learn about:

the one core HSP reason you get overwhelmed (no matter your precise circumstances)
a unique process to help you shift out of overwhelm in the moment (hint: it’s not a meditation nor a breathing technique!)
how to tailor this process to your unique circumstances
how to use this unique process to avoid getting overwhelmed in the first place! (it doubles up as a prevention and a cure!)

Let’s be clear, when you’re overwhelmed and stressed out, you’re no use to anyone, least of all yourself!

And if you just keep pushing on, chances are you need to redo things later, or you get sick and all that time you “won”, you now lose times 3!
Or maybe, you just don’t sleep well (5 hours at most) – because some people (raising my hand here) can keep going and going for a while but then sleep suffers, until you completely crash.

So avoiding overwhelm really is worth it. Not just for yourself, but also for your loved ones, colleagues and everyone and everything you care about!

“Thanks again for such an amazing, healing session during your live group class! I love the circles idea.” Cristina

“Thank you for this Caroline. It’s a great extra tool for me to see what I actually feel/think I need to do versus what can actually be prioritized for a different time.” Deena

“This was very helpful” Yvette

“These are all great tips” Erin

“Thank you so much! It was so helpfull” Fátima

Tension Tactics Class

Do you try to keep the peace, but too often, nobody listens?

It’s frustrating right?

>>You can feel the tension in the room.
>>You notice the clash.
>>You anticipate the inevitable conflict.
>>You try to smoothe things over, but sometimes nothing you do is helping!
>>And now you’re stuck with a mess.

What to do?

This is actually a really common problem for Highly Sensitive People. We don’t like conflict and really would prefer it if everyone would just get along. Why is that so hard for people to do?

Anyhoo, while you’re trying so hard to keep the peace, all that peace-keeping work can be pretty exhausting. Especially when at the end of it, it doesn’t seem to matter one bit!

That is why I taught a live class on this topic. The recording of the class is available inside the Happy Sensitive Library, it’s called “Tension Tactics for HSPs”.

You’ll learn:

Why common peace-keeping strategies (that feel intuitive) often fail.
How these challenges are an invitation for you to grow (in ways you didn’t expect!)
A deeper understanding of what tensions and clashes are about at their root.
A technique to use in the moment to help you get results.
The HSP blind-spot that is making you work too hard.

“Awesome meditation! So beautiful and I felt more appreciation and beauty of differences💖” Susan

“Really helpful! Thank you!” Marcy

“This was awesome and very helpful! Thank you!” Deena

What to do with Anger

How do you handle anger in a way that doesn’t make you explode inappropriately, but also doesn’t make you implode over time?

In this class you’ll learn new strategies for dealing with anger and we’ll dive a little into the origin of “dysfunctional anger” so you can better understand why anger can be such a struggle.

This is helpful because it will give you more compassion for any struggles with feelings of anger.

If you worry about dealing with anger the right way, if you don’t want to be like your parents, but also if you “never get angry” this class is for you.

You can access the recording of it in the Happy Sensitive Library in the “Difficult Feelings made Easier” section.

Get started in the Library

Winter Blues Class

This class is a bonus to the Winter Blues Kit, which is all about changes you can make to help prevent the Winter Blues.

The Winter Blues Kit guides you through 3 big ideas that will help you see the winter blues in a new light + take action!

Plus, you’ll learn why standard tips don’t help and how you can make them work for you after all.

This is for you if winters feel dead and dreary…

…and also for you if things are “not that bad” (it’s just that you kinda wished it was summer)

Winter is the darkest season of the year, but it doesn’t have to be the worst. In its own way, it can actually be illuminating, if you know how to tune in to it.

In the Winter Blues Class there is recorded Q&A (we talk about the importance and practicalities of getting outdoors in winter and more) and I also walk you through 2 new meditations.

The first meditation will help you get in touch with the deeper reasons for your personal struggle with winter.

The second meditation will be a feel-good way to deal with the darkness of winter. It’s essentially a shift in focus.

“I’m sitting here with a big smile. What a brilliant meditation!” ~Irene