Extroverted? Here are 9 Tips on how to be Quiet and Reflective (and more intuitive!)

November 1, 2019

This article started as a “sure, why not?” response to the tweet below… Just once I’d like to see an article like “Extroverted? Here’s Some Tips on How to Be Quiet and Reflective” https://t.co/jOhLJKZuT3 — Tom & Lorenzo (@tomandlorenzo) August 29, 2019   I fired off one tweet to start: I have a tip. I […]

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Are Negative Emotions Bad for Your Health?

October 22, 2019

A little while back, I received this comment over email: “I keep being told that  negative emotions put stress on the body and the cells.  That I need to think positive or I won’t heal!  Then I get scared and add another emotion.” Sigh, I wish people would stop saying that. Especially people who consider […]

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12 Habits to Avoid Misery and Feel Better

October 17, 2019

If you’re feeling overwhelmed with the world, you’re not alone. Sadly, (too) many HSP forums and articles focus on how terrible the state of the world is, as a kind of “reason why” there is no way out of feeling bad. Even worse, a lot of people seem to suggest (reading between the lines) that […]

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3 Big Causes of HSP Overwhelm: Stress, Bullies, Energy

September 17, 2019

  In my work, there are 3 big causes of HSP overwhelm that I see – and they have nothing to do with whether the world is HSP-friendly or not. Overwhelm Source No 1: Stress   I know stress sounds generic. “Oh, you’re just stressed” is the “whatever” of the 21st century. But, most of […]

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Psychic Narcissism: when inner emptiness leads to psychic stealing

May 27, 2019

  What can be better than dealing with narcissists? Dealing with narcissists who have super powers. For sure. ahem.   I’ve written a lot about narcissism on this site + created a programme to free HSPs from the toxic responsibility-binds with narcissistic people, and for a while, that’s all I thought there was to it. […]

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Core Differences Between Empaths and Other People Who are Sensitive to Energy

May 15, 2019

If you’ve been reading my articles for a while, you know that I care a lot about the many subtle and technical distinctions between many kinds of sensitivity. Why? Because depending on the underlying mechanisms of your sensitivity the solution you need will be radically different. You could compare it so something everyday like feeling […]

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Three Big Problems with Ungrounded Spirituality

May 2, 2019

Ungrounded spirituality is sadly very common. A lot of people, when they think of spirituality, new age topics, energy healing and such, their first association is “oh no, all that airy-fairy stuff!”. And unfortunately, for the most part, they are correct. This is not because spiritual, psychic and energy healing topics are in and of […]

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What are Energy Vampires or Emotional Vampires Really? Beyond the hype

March 31, 2019

I see the topic of emotional vampires or energy vampires come up SO much now in articles, books, videos. It’s everywhere! Yet, what I also see is that in discussing this topic, a lot of different things get mashed together into one big blob of “aaargh, it’s toxic!” and that is not helpful, for anyone. […]

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The Trouble with Instant Connections

March 21, 2019

Instant connections can feel like the most magical thing in the world, right? You meet someone and something just clicks. You don’t even know what it is exactly. I mean, you barely know this person! But you just feel connected somehow. If only all of life could be so easy! When we feel an instant […]

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Two Big Reasons Why Being “Too Sensitive” is Completely Beside the Point

March 14, 2019

Other people need to stop telling you that you’re too sensitive – but they won’t. So, what’s left to do? You need to stop telling yourself that you’re too sensitive. Because those are the things that really hurt: the things that others say, that match what we feel deep down inside. If you truly didn’t […]

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5 Ways to Deal with Your Feelings Without Having To

February 28, 2019

There are a lot of ways of dealing with your feelings without actually dealing with them. Let me count the ways!     1 – Suppressing them   You seal them in a tiny black box and never look at them again. The problem? They’re still there. It’s like taking all your bills and dumping […]

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Why Awareness Won’t Solve Your Overwhelm Problems

January 17, 2019

I hear a lot of people talk about awareness. Awareness is a good thing. But what exactly does it mean to “be aware”? Being aware can be as basic as “I know this thing is happening, I am aware!”. It can even go as far as “I know when this thing is happening! I am […]

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How to Figure out What you Want as an HSP

December 13, 2018

One of the blocks to knowing what you want is often a voice that sounds like: “but other people need me to be X” “there is no time for me to figure out what I want, I have too many responsibilities!”, or even: “my head is filled with what other people want, what I think […]

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Five Common Misunderstandings About Empaths

October 24, 2018

1. I am intuitive, I know things about people… therefore I am an empath. Nope. There are different ways to “know” things. There are different forms of intuition and psychic abilities, being an empath is just one of those options. Empaths feel energy. Other psychic gifts can be connected to different senses: knowing things, somehow. […]

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Why Narcissists Get Stuck in a Negative Rut – and what you need to know to not get sucked down with them

October 20, 2018

This is for all the HSPs and empaths out there who see the sensitivity in a narcissist and relate a little too much. Especially when this person is the covert-narcissist victim type, there’s a lot of resentment, blame and superiority going on underneath the surface, but it won’t be apparent at first. Rather, covert-narcissists love […]

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When Trying to Make Things Work is Making You Feel Hopeless

October 11, 2018

For the creative world-makers it’s hard to hear that this is the way it is and always will be! In fact, chances are, you reject a rigid statement like that. Nothing, absolutely nothing needs to stay the way it is, and it shouldn’t! I applaud your creativity. I understand it. I have it. And I’ve […]

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Why You Endlessly Doubt Your Intuition

July 29, 2018

When something happens a lot, with a lot of people I talk to in a row, I know it’s something I need to write about. Recently, I’ve had a lot of conversations with HSPs who doubt their intuition. Nothing wrong with doubting! After all, there is such a thing as being too sure (and full of) […]

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The Missing Piece on Healing from Narcissists

June 28, 2018

There are a lot of helpful books and programmes out there on understanding narcissists. You can spend years in therapy talking about them and wondering why they did what they did and how they impacted you. But the missing piece is this: how does all this relate to you? At first, it’s helpful to focus […]

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Reader Question: Am I the Crazy One?

June 20, 2018

A reader wrote in with the following question: Am I the crazy one? I have been in a relationship with someone that may be a narcissist but I am confused. I was always someone that went out of my way to help people. I wanted it to be my mission and have made it so […]

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Self-Esteem is a Strategy, Not a Thing

May 27, 2018

Self-esteem gets thrown around a lot as if it’s an elusive “thing” that you either do or do not have much of. “Oh, you have low self-esteem” is used a lot as an explanation. When you have low-self esteem you put up with all kinds of abuse, right? But what exactly is self-esteem and why […]

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