How to Let Go

HSP Dilemma: what to do when you can’t stop a conflict no matter what

April 22, 2014

I think it’s fair to say that we HSPs generally don’t like conflict. Stop the war! Stop the bickering! Stop the mounting tension! Ah, if only we could stop it. Yet conflict is part of life. If we get too obsessed with resolving it, then we become a stomped-on doormat. In our desire to create […]

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8 Reasons Why Letting Go Can Be Extra Hard for HSPs

January 7, 2013

How often have people told you to just let go? It’s annoying right? Letting go isn’t all that straightforward. Here’s 8 reasons why letting go can be especially tricky for us HSPs. 1. A sense of “things shouldn’t be this way”. You’re right that they shouldn’t.  Yet, is your sense of indignation keeping you from […]

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Is letting Go Hard for you? 4 Toxic Assumptions That May Be In Your Way, Exposed.

January 7, 2013

To let something go we have to fully own it first. It’s very tempting to skip this step. We tend to prefer to let things go a.s.a.p. so that we have to deal with it as little as possible. It’s slimy and we just want to throw it back into the pond, that kind of […]

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To “let go” or “say no” – that’s the HSP question

February 24, 2013

Yet, setting boundaries and NOT taking too much responsibility are essential especially for us sensitive folk! This was originally a “true video”. Yet due to multiple tech issues I had to convert it to pretty much an audio instead. There were numerous moments of saying no and letting go in getting this online! Next one […]

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The Disempowerment of Blame: how wanting other people to change blocks your own healing

May 25, 2013

There is a big difference between saying: “Person X did something that really hurt me” versus “Because of what person x did, I will never be able to move forward in my life” It’s the difference between saying: “I’m hurt and need to heal” versus, “I might as well give up”. Blame is a popular strategy. It has […]

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Beyond Forgiveness – because forgiveness doesn’t necessarily help HSPs

June 20, 2013

Forgiveness is a tricky business, not least of all because it’s often used/promoted as a “quick-fix” or as a way to avoid dealing with the raw emotions of a situation (“just forgive and move on!”). As HSPs, we are often already extremely gifted at seeing the situation through the other person’s eyes, so much so, […]

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