You do have Limits…

You are sensitive, and you feel soooooo intimately connected to everything and everyone around you. You empathize, you understand, you sacrifice…and you end up become a doormat. Compassion comes naturally to you, yet, setting firm boundaries doesn’t. After all, often you may not even feel your boundaries…Yet, you need to set firm boundaries in order to survive, be respected, and live well. It is never too late to start setting healthy boundaries!

How can you be both Sensitive and Empowered as a Woman?

October 6, 2015

What is women empowerment really? Empowerment has a bit of a “big trucks” and “being ripped” and “lots of money” ring to it. When we think of empowerment, our mind tends to go to hugely successful people, the rich and famous, or assholes and narcissists, as well as dare-devil bad-asses. As in: perhaps we need […]

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How Come You Are Giving Plenty But Receiving Little?

March 8, 2015

There is a spiritual adage that says: “give and you will receive”. It’s a popular principle, and often misconstrued. Don’t get me wrong, taking instant gratification out of the picture is a good thing. “Will” implies that good things are coming, it might just take a while. There is nothing wrong with that. In fact, […]

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HSP & Helpful: 7 Ways Toxic People Convince You to do more for them than you really want to

September 12, 2013

This post is all about buttons, hidden triggers. Toxic people especially are very good at finding those in others. They find them in order to use them, to manipulate you. Recognizing the buttons doesn’t stop the triggering from happening. Yet, it does help you pull out of a bad situation in time. 1. Toxic people strategy […]

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How to be Helpful without Drowning in the HSP Helper’s Trap

January 22, 2013

Wanting to help others, seeking harmony, being committed to creating peace… these are prime driving forces for many HSPs. Yet, what is the best way to go about working with these driving forces? What specifically do you think of, when you think of helping others? Do you think of taking over and doing things for […]

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Do You Need More Time?

September 13, 2012

Well, it appears you’re not alone! Below is a recent google search result: Our language is filled with references to time running out, lacking time, and time being short. Having “no time” is THE prime reason for not doing things and any indication of having “plenty of time” seems to be equated with “having no […]

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Are You the Sensitive Friend or the Sensitive Therapist? 8 Tips for Clarity on HSP Relationships

April 23, 2012

As sensitive people, we tend to be pretty good at intuiting what others need and what is bothering them. This makes us the ideal person to turn to when things are tough and/or confusing. Since we often enjoy having deep conversations (and might even be relieved that we don’t have to wade through an onslaught […]

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The Mediator, The Scapegoat, the Blamer and the Lost.

August 2, 2011

As sensitives, other people love having us as mediators. We tend to easily see the many sides of an issue, we sympathize with people taking different positions, and we end up being stuck in the middle. At best, we’re merely pressured to choose a side, at worst we can end up the scapegoat. I’ve come […]

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When Listening becomes Listless: Troubleshooting The Empathic Ear

August 8, 2011

As sensitives, we tend to be good listeners. We find it easy to tune in to others, notice subtle cues and give our undivided attention to what someone is saying. Thich Nath Hanh once said that if only more people would truly listen to others, there wouldn’t be such a great need for therapists. On […]

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On Pushers and Sensitives: the way forward

January 14, 2012

There are different ways in life to get things done. One way is to push. This is the way of The Pushers. The Pushers’ Way is this: When people don’t do what you want, you push them. When you’re not getting the results you want, you push harder (yourself and/or others). When you don’t know how […]

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HSPs and Needs: Dreaming our Own Lives into Being

December 28, 2012

We often feel like the world we dream of is just not there. For many of us, these inner beliefs have become fortified by early life experiences. Trauma like that can disconnect us from a sense of our own needs. This is important for us HSPs to know. When people ask you what you want, […]

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Essential Boundaries for HSPs and Empaths: Keeping track of our own well-being

December 13, 2011

As empaths and/or sensitives, one of the most difficult things to do is to say NO to people who need help or plain want our attention. And so, for a while, we don’t say no. That is, until we start to notice how negatively that is affecting us. By claiming our space we restore our […]

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Why Self-Care is About Knowing (your inner cat) Better

April 10, 2012

I was reminded of a big truth today. The past couple of years, I’ve discovered over and over again how I do “know better” when it comes to myself. Let me explain what I mean by that in the way all cat owners explain life’s wisdom. My cat (and I’m sure he’s not alone) loves […]

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