You do have Limits…

You are sensitive, and you feel soooooo intimately connected to everything and everyone around you. You empathize, you understand, you sacrifice…and you end up become a doormat. Compassion comes naturally to you, yet, setting firm boundaries doesn’t. After all, often you may not even feel your boundaries…Yet, you need to set firm boundaries in order to survive, be respected, and live well. It is never too late to start setting healthy boundaries!

When Listening becomes Listless: Troubleshooting The Empathic Ear

August 8, 2011

Do you get exhausted sometimes, listening to other people? As sensitives, we tend to be good listeners. We find it easy to tune in to others, notice subtle cues and give our undivided attention to what someone is saying. Thich Nath Hanh once said that if only more people would truly listen to others, there […]

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How Come You Are Giving Plenty But Receiving Little?

March 8, 2015

There is a spiritual adage that says: “give and you will receive”. It’s a popular principle, and often misconstrued. Don’t get me wrong, taking instant gratification out of the picture is a good thing. “Will” implies that good things are coming, it might just take a while. There is nothing wrong with that. In fact, […]

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Boundaries for Highly Sensitive People: the yes, the no, the confusion

January 12, 2021

I get a lot of questions about boundaries for Highly Sensitive People. BUT – many sensitive souls don’t know that their real questions are about boundaries! They will google overwhelm and exhaustion and physical pain and all kinds of problems and ailments that are the result of not having supportive boundaries. So, the fact that […]

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Why Protecting Yourself with Better Boundaries Against Abuse Can Feel (really) Scary

August 1, 2022

Let’s face it, you don’t need excellent boundaries in order to deal with truly kind, compassionate people. Chances are, if you forget to speak up they’ll ask anyway. If you ignore your own needs they’ll check if you’re o.k. Before deciding on anything big they’ll make sure to know what you truly want and factor […]

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