If you are left-handed, you will have experienced first hand how many things in this world are not “made for you”. If you are HSP, you will also experience how many things in this world are not “made for you.” The similarity? Both are a matter of how you are “physically designed”.
When I was in elementary school, being left handed was “accepted” but you sure were encouraged to feel that it was a stupid way to be! Writing in ink meant smudging-as-you-go-along. The only solution seemed to be a cramped and uncomfortable hand position that kept my hand above the drying ink. Now I think, why didn’t anyone give me a ballpoint? Then, when I did get a ballpoint, my cramped style had become the only way I could write. So, I was told that I wasn’t writing correctly and needed to put an embarrasing ‘aid’ on my pens, to help me grasp the pen correctly… The ‘aid’ was meant for much younger kids and little things mattering as they do in elementary school, it meant I was a part-time dork, just for that.
It wasn’t until much much later that a sympathetic colleague commented that “hey, must be complex for you doing simple things, since the world is built for right-handed people”….Up until that moment, I never realized that a lot of my felt clumsiness actually came from having to use right-hand doors, scissors and all kinds of other things with my left hand. It’s so subtle, yet so influential. And heck, I just didn’t know any better!
Discovering I’m HSP was kind of like that. You find out that all the labels you’ve received (oversensitive, shy, awkward, crazy) have Nothing to do with YOU. It’s just the nervous system you have. Much like being left-handed and having to use right-handed doorhandles, you have to learn to function in a world designed for people that fare well on much more stimulation. There’s nothing wrong with you, all it is is an unacknowledged and misunderstood characteristic of your body and hence of your being. Pfewww. And, of course, that’s when the real work starts….
Now, when I get “abnormally” stressed out, I think of it not as “me” being “odd” but as “me and my sensitive body”. And, since there’s two of us ( :) ), one can take care of the other.
There are some things I can do but my body can’t. I can:
1 Anticipate over stimulation
2 Plan needed rest and time-out
3 Come up with a suitable exit-line in taxing social situations
4 Find out as much as possible about being HSP so that, of all people, at least
I ‘get’ and respect my body
5 Choose people who respect HSPs to hang out with
There are some things I can’t do but my body can. My body can:
1 Alert me about bad-for-me situations (my solar plexus gives me instant nausea)
2 Pick up all kinds of subtle info that can give me vital clues about my
surroundings (like being part of a kind of energetic FBI, you’ve got access to all kinds of
amazing insider’s info!)
3 Eliminate toxins and stress through movement
So, unfortunately, most of the man-made world isn’t made for HSPs (it’s like being left-handed remember?) and I need to remind myself of that. Reminding myself helps me NOT to get upset and angry at others for “making life unbearable”. It’s just that, they need the extra stimulation that I dread.
So sometimes I like to think: “It’s so much easier being HSP. We like the earth in her purest, natural form. We don’t need all the man-made excitement and entertainment to keep our lives interesting. We are in fact, easy to please!”