2013

What if your parent is a narcissist?

December 8, 2013

A reader of this article left the following question as a comment: “What if the narcissist is one of my family members (like my dad)? I love him very much, but it’s unbearable being around him. He’ll pick me apart for what he sees as my problems, and even say that he loves me more […]

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HSP solutions for too much work & too little time

December 7, 2013

In the workplace, this means that we naturally tend to take in and do everything with more attention to detail. As a result, we tend to deliver higher quality work… and we also run out of time more easily. (For an article on running out of time in your private life, see here) Workplaces in […]

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The Repressed Past is the Future Waiting to Happen

November 23, 2013

Our body lives in the present, always. It seeks to experience what is there, whether that is “outside” of us or “inside”. Everything and anything that we once experienced and locked away because it was too scary or too much to deal with, will get added to the list of “things to experience”. And, it […]

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The Opposite of HSP Happiness is Guilt

November 19, 2013

When you think about the opposite of happiness, do you think of depression? Sadness? Anger perhaps? Or have you realised – through experience – that the opposite of happiness is guilt, because guilt is the biggest thing blocking you from doing what makes you happy? I’m not the definitive expert on what emotional state is […]

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HSP and the Feeling of Not Belonging

November 6, 2013

Ok, so here’s a little scenario. You’re born, and you’re this little bundle full of just being you. There’s no complicated conditioning, no rules, no restraints, just you being you. Then what, you grow up, and you get taught how you’re supposed to be. Now, depending on where, when and how your growing up happened, […]

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7 Essential Stress Rules for HSP’s

October 27, 2013

Simply put, stress happens when something is “too much”. When is something too much? It depends. Too much for a 1 liter container is less than too much for a 5 liter container. As HSP’s, our inner containers tend to fill up more quickly. This is because we sense the world around us (and inside […]

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Are You Super Sensitive to How Other People Perceive You?

October 16, 2013

Most of us were raised to care about how we’re perceived by others. To some extent, this is normal and healthy! Yet, when you become super sensitive to how other people perceive you, this can really hold you back! This landed in my inbox the other day: “I have a question for you. Do you […]

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15 Tips for HSPs on Finding Support

October 16, 2013

Many HSPs I talk to have reached out for support at some point. Too often, the help they got just made them feel worse and completely misunderstood. Below are some of my own guidelines/ questions to ponder for getting good support. In this post, I refer to someone who can help you as a “mentor”. A […]

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Sensipreneur Series [no.2]: Art, Life and Inner Wisdom

October 7, 2013

In the Sensipreneur Series I interview HSP’s who have made sensitivity a big part of their own business. This (e-mail) interview is with Artist and ‘art Life Coach’ Marie Mikkonen from crealife.fi and colorisaction.com   A quick intro to Marie’s business: Marie is an artist & life coach who -on the one hand- makes art […]

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HSP & Helpful: 7 Ways Toxic People Convince You to do more for them than you really want to

September 12, 2013

  This post is all about buttons, hidden triggers. Toxic people especially are very good at finding those in others. They find them in order to use them, to manipulate you. Recognizing the buttons doesn’t stop the triggering from happening. Yet, it does help you pull out of a bad situation in time.     1. […]

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Being Empathic versus Being an Empath: Crucial Differences

August 19, 2013

This article is about the seemingly negligible distinctions between being empathic and being an empath. Seemingly negligible because the practical distinctions are huge! If you know you’re Highly Sensitive, you might have been wondering: “am I an empath?”. Well, this article will help you understand the differences.As an HSP, you’ll likely identify with being empathic. […]

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Empath Heartbreak

June 21, 2013

Empaths are the sensitives among the sensitives. Feeling other’s emotions so intensely that they assume these feelings are their own, empaths tend to struggle more with overwhelm than other HSP’s. Empath heartbreak plays a big role in this. To heal, the brokenness needs to be faced.  I can’t speak for all empaths, but I have […]

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Beyond Forgiveness – because forgiveness doesn’t necessarily help HSPs

June 20, 2013

Forgiveness is a tricky business, not least of all because it’s often used/promoted as a “quick-fix” or as a way to avoid dealing with the raw emotions of a situation (“just forgive and move on!”). As HSPs, we are often already extremely gifted at seeing the situation through the other person’s eyes, so much so, […]

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The Disempowerment of Blame: how wanting other people to change blocks your own healing

May 25, 2013

There is a big difference between saying: “Person X did something that really hurt me” versus “Because of what person x did, I will never be able to move forward in my life” It’s the difference between saying: “I’m hurt and need to heal” versus, “I might as well give up”. Blame is a popular strategy. It has […]

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The Key-and-lock of HSP-co-dependency and Narcissism

May 15, 2013

It’s a theme. Caring, committed person taking care of grumpy cold partner. Perhaps people on the outside see it, perhaps they don’t. At the point of heartbreak, relationship break-up and a gleam of returning sanity, the scenario often plays out something like this: Co-dependent HSP: my partner is really a good person at heart. Things […]

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HSP / Empath Mythology & Suffering – do your inner stories support you?

May 11, 2013

The stories we tell ourselves about the big WHY of being a sensitive person in a not so sensitive world…those stories really matter, they can make or break us. More on that in the video. If you’d like to get more help with this topic, be sure to check out the empath course. In it, […]

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An HSP Note on Impossible Dreams versus Realistic Desires: how (not) to have it all

May 6, 2013

This is for all the HSP big dreamers out there. There are times when a fact-check will kill your dreaming and should be avoided. Other times, a fact-check will save you the heartache of trying to contradict life itself and then be angry because you think you’re “failing”.   There is a tile in my […]

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How Being Present Requires Keeping it Simple (and letting go of the mental extras)

April 30, 2013

Many years ago in a land far, far away (for some of you reading this post that is) I bought a book that enchanted me, and that soothed me, and that, most of the time, I didn’t understand at all. It was called “Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind” by Shunryu Suzuki.   Shunryu often spoke of […]

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Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (adrenal fatigue): where has the energy gone?

April 26, 2013

Many HSP’s struggle with Chronic Fatigue Syndome / Adrenal Fatigue. Is there a rhyme and reason to this strange illness, and if so, what could it be? In this video I address a model of how the clashing of authenticity and conditioning can create a situation of “having the brakes on”.    

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HSP’s & Healing: Is Busting Through Inner Blocks Necessary?

April 26, 2013

Do we need a lot of pushing and prodding to heal, achieve goals and move forward? Does it work? Is it helpful? What about an alternative? I’ve been pondering this topic this week: I think a gentler, more HSP-friendly alternative is often overlooked. More on that in the video.  

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